Dear Carol

"Dear Carol, I'm crushing on a guy with a bad reputation..."

Dear Carol, 

I have a crush on someone who actually likes me back, but he’s never told me in person, only mutual friends. He has sort of a bad reputation. When I see him, he smiles and stares, then turns away. He sometimes makes groans or moans or a mwah-mwah sound while I pass by. He told one guy to unfollow me on Insta (jealousy?) and he told another guy that we are friends. But are we? How can we be friends if we haven’t even talked?

-Bad Boy 

Dear Bad Boy, 

Your bad boy crush stares, groans and makes kissy sounds. What makes you think that he’s a catch and that he’d be a joy to hang out with? And who is he to tell someone to unfollow you? If you wrote me about a boy who makes you laugh and think and whom everyone considers a great guy, I’d reply differently. Right now, you and this boy are trying to figure out your next steps…and my advice is to press pause. Just because a boy likes you does *not* mean he gets a green light. And it’s always smart to aim high rather than to settle too soon on someone who happens to have noticed that you are well worth noticing.

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by GL | 11/7/2020