Dear Carol

"Dear Carol, is my crush too old for me?"

Dear Carol,

I’m 14 and I like this guy who is 17. He goes to my church, we text a lot and it feels like we’re the same age. He told me he liked me, but I don’t know what to do. I feel like I shouldn’t date him because he’s too old. What do you think?

-Age Gap 

Dear Age Gap,

When you’re in your 20s, three years is no big deal. But for now, three years is a lot. Can you tell this boy the truth: that you like him, but the age gap feels like too much? Time flies and someday you two might pick up where you left off. But I think you wrote me because you knew I’d say what I’m now saying, which is that you’re right to be apprehensive. Your gut is smart. Listen to it.

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by GL | 11/10/2020