Dear Carol

"Dear Carol, I might have lied about my sexuality."

Dear Carol, 

Recently a lot of my friends came out. I'm happy for them, but I also feel left out because I'm now the only one in my friend group who is straight. Then I accidentally said I was bi. (It was a spur-of-the-moment thing and I feel awful about it.) Even though it was an accident, I'm worried that if I tell them the truth, I'll feel even more left out—or I'll seem like a jerk when that wasn't my intention. 

- Left Out

Dear Left Out, 

Statistically, it would be highly unusual for you to be the only girl in your group to be straight. So some of your friends may also reassess the labels they gave themselves. Keep being accepting of everyone, especially yourself, and if you want to say, "I don't know why I blurted out that I was bi. I don't think I am, actually," you can. It's also OK to stay quiet about all this. You can discover your sexuality at your own pace and on your own terms. It doesn't have to be public knowledge or open for discussion. 

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by GL | 3/22/2022