Nicole: I totally understand how that feels, Amri, but there’s nothing you can do to grow up faster, and everything will come in the right time. I’m sure you’re just months behind some of your friends, and I’d imagine many other friends are in the same boat as you.

Emily: I’m 11 and things are starting to change with my body. It’s all part of the process and I take those changes as a sign that things are happening. Don’t worry about it, I can promise that one day, probably really soon, you’ll get boobs and your period!



Nicole: Well, Stephanie, I first want to say I think it’s awesome how you aren’t jumping to conclusions. You’re really smart to be honest about how you feel based on what’s happening, but not assume you know their motives. Too many times relationships fall apart because of assumptions.

This is a very common problem, and it even happens into adulthood, unfortunately. In the end, your true friends will stick by you no matter what. Those are the kind of friends you really want, anyway. But, remember, it’s OK for them to have other friends, too. Don’t be too clingy or jealous. It won’t help the situation at all, and will drive them away from you.

Natalie: Yes! I see this at my school all the time. I try my best to stay out of this kind of drama because it causes so many problems and then blows over. I recommend you talk to your friend and let her know how you feel, but not in a whiny way and not as though you don’t want her to have other friends. Just try to accept other people’s choices and be yourself. If you try to control your friends, they’ll pull away.

Nicole: No. You should definitely not ignore it. These feelings you’re having are real, and your parents need to have the opportunity to talk to you about them. Maybe they’ll be able to assure you that everything is fine, but even if it isn’t, they can assure you of their love for you. Keeping your feelings to yourself lets the fears and sadness grow, but talking about it gives everyone the opportunity to heal.

Emily: This is something I’d definitely talk to my parents about. I’d be afraid—probably because I wouldn’t want to hear bad news. But talking about it doesn’t make the truth any less true. Not talking about it only keeps you suffering. So, to me, the only good option is to open up.



Nicole: I’m very sorry you’re going through this, Luiza, but I’m glad you’re getting help. My recommendation is that you begin to make friends and hang out with people, but with a trusted adult who can help you, at least at first. If someone like a parent or youth leader who knows your situation can be around when you are hanging out with other girls, they can help watch for cues or triggers that you might be struggling. That way, you’ll feel freer to enjoy yourself without worrying as much.

by GL | 2/1/2016