I'm embarrassed that I don't have my period yet!

I’m thirteen and don’t have my period yet! I know thirteen really isn’t that late but all my friends have it. I’ve heard it’s a pain but whenever anyone asks me if I have it, I’m embarrassed. To top it off, my mom’s always saying, “So when are you gonna get your period?” like it’s a job I’ve been putting off or something!

What should I do when someone asks me? Should I just lie or tell the truth and be embarrassed?

-Waiting


Hey girl,

Eek, isn’t waiting for your period such a hassle? It’s not that you can’t wait, but it’d just be easier to get it over with and not have to worry about it anymore, right? That’s def how I felt when I was your age.

But here’s the secret, girl: there’s no rush. I know right now it stinks when weeks go by and you’re not getting your period. But once you get it, you’re stuck with it for the rest of your life (well, almost). It’ll happen soon enough; just let it be.

In the meantime, it sounds like you’ve got a tough sitch with your friends and family making you feel like the odd one out. Why does it embarrass you when you have to admit you haven’t gotten your period yet? Does it make you feel less mature? For the record, when someone asks you about your period, she probably doesn’t want to brag about how mature she is. It usually just means she wants to see if you can relate. And you will be able to soon enough, no worries. So when it comes to friends, smile and say, “Nope, not yet!”

The thing is, lying would just complicate things. What happens when you do get your period—you might have questions (help buying pads, meds for cramps, etc.) but you’ve got to pretend you’re a pro? Just be honest with your girls.

When it comes to your mom, tell her how you feel. I don’t think she means to make you feel bad about this. After all, it’s def not something you can control! She might just be as anxious as you are! So try saying something like, “Mom, I wish I knew when I was getting my period, but for now, I’ve just gotta wait it out.” If that doesn’t work, be more blunt about how it makes you feel. The key to waiting is not letting anyone make you feel bad. It’ll all work out!
Good luck!
Miliana

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8/12/2009 4:13:00 PM
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