Material monster?

I feel like I'm becoming very focused on material things these days. I don't have some of the things that my friends do, like a cell phone, a laptop, or a Facebook page. It's not like I'm poor or anything. My family can afford all of these things. It's just that my parents choose not to get them for me.


I know that my friends and family love me without all these things, but I just feel so selfish and conceited when I think about how much better life would be if I was on Facebook or had my own cell phone, and not the things that really matter like love and friendships. I hate when I start to think like that because I don't really want to be focused on those kinds of things.


-Material Girl


Hey chica,

Don't worry about a thing. When it comes to materialism, you're not alone. So many of us want more, more, more...and you know what? It's a totally normal feeling. But even better? You can totally fix it.


Try to think of your parent's restrictions in a positive light. If the 'rents can afford the things you want, why aren't they getting them for you? It's because they're looking out for you! Your parents went through their teenage years as well and they know how it feels to want things your friends have. But they also know that there are so many things that are more important to focus on when you're young. And they want you to see that, too!


Secondly, know that materials in this world won't last forever. The coolest cell will probably be outdated by next season and in a few years it'll just be totally old. Laptops? They can break and be replaced easily. And Facebook pages? Having 765 friends and updating your status every few seconds isn't gonna make you happy in the long run.


The things that will last are your REAL friendships, family, and all the great smiles, laughter and good times that come with them. It may sound cliche but it's the truth. And remember how blessed you are already! More than half of the people in this world don't have clean water to drink, don't have a well-built home, and don't have more than one pair of clothes! When you put things that way, it's hard to think that you need a cell phone or a Facebook to make life better.


So the next time you're envying your BFF's new iPod touch? It might be tough, but ignore that feeling and focus on something fun--like the surprise party you're throwing for your friend on Friday. And if you ever feel overwhelmed, don't be afraid to journal away the good ol' fashioned way in a neat notebook or call up your bestie for a good gab sesh.


-Jean L.

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8/31/2009 7:00:00 AM
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