My mom's had two boyfriends since she and my dad got a divorce 10 years ago, and she is currently on her third. He quit his job, he controls my mom and makes her act like a different person and he only comes over at night so it's possible he's cheating on her.

Anytime I talk to her about it she says, "Fine, I guess you just want me to be unhappy and die alone" So in other words, she's giving me a guilt trip. This guy is going to cause my mom and I to drift apart from each other in the long run. I really can't stand him! What do I do?

First off, take a deep, very deep breath and let it all out. It's always tough dealing with these kinds of circumstances, but it'll be okay. You just gotta face it one step at a time.

First off, straighten out your thoughts by venting. Whether you write it out on a diary, tell your BFF or belt out your fave song, say whatever you want. This will totally help you feel better and will calm you down before you move on.

So what's the next step? Talking to your mom about it. This might not be smooth sailing, but it's definitely gonna be worth it because direct communication works the best in serious sitches. When you talk to her, try to put yourself in her shoes. Sure, the whole guilt-trip is hard to overlook. However, it'll be easier to communicate to each other if you open up and try understand.

And don't even think about the worst things that could happen. Thinking about what your madre's boyfriend could do to your mom and your relationship will just bring you down more. Keep your faith up! Tell your mom that you don't really like her BF and talk to a guidance counselor if you fear for her safety. She cares for you and she won't do anything without taking your opinion and feelings into consideration.

2/6/2010 7:00:00 AM