Hi. I don’t know but I need some help. I have liked this guy for years and last month, he asked me out at a dance so now we’re a couple. The thing is, he is really shy around girls and doesn’t like to talk a lot to me and I wanted to know if there was anything I could do to make him feel like he can say or do whatever around me. How can I make him more outgoing or more comfortable becuz I am also having a party this Friday and he is coming and idk what to do!!! Help!!!

-Maureen'

Wow! Sounds like this guy used up all his courage when he asked you out…time to break him out of his shell! Try going out on group dates or hanging out with friends instead of one-on-one alone time. With other people around he might be more apt to let his voice be heard. Instead of going to dinner or a movie, go mini-golfing, bowling, or tubing down a river…anything fun where you guys can be goofy. He’ll probably be a lot more comfortable talking if everyone else is being loud and crazy too. When you’re having convo with him, be sure to ask him questions that can’t be answered in one word. For example, instead of asking, “I’m so psyched for the new Harry Potter book, are you?” try “I’m so siked for the new Harry Potter book, what do you think is going to happen?” It might take a little work to make him relax around you, but the end result will be worth the effort

-Alli

7/19/2007 12:30:47 PM