I have a close friend I’ve known for almost six years, and we are in eighth grade. She just told me she’s bisexual. She asked me if I’m OK with that. I don’t want to hurt her feelings and still want to be her friend, but it’s been awkward. I want to tell her how I feel.

So tell her. You could say, “Of course, I still respect and care about you, but I am confused, how did you realize you were bi?” She might reply, “it’s personal,” but she could welcome the chance to talk. In this millennium, kids are barraged by images of sexuality. Many teens announce they are bi (attracted to girls and guys) before they’ve kissed anybody at all. Perhaps girls shouldn’t rush to declare sexual learnings when sex is still such a long way off. Nonetheless, since your friend put herself out there, why not share your questions with her in a sensitive and non-judgmental way?

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