Is your older sibling leaving home? Here's how to cope

Knowing that your older sibling is going to be leaving the house soon can make the time leading up to it sad, nostalgic, and bittersweet. Whether they’re leaving for college, spending a summer away, or moving out to live on their own, not living with your older sibling can be such a lifestyle change. No amount of preparation can make the process any easier, but there are ways to cope with their absence after they’re gone.

Make a schedule of when you’re going to call or facetime
Keeping in contact with your siblings can become difficult when you’re not living under the same roof. You go from seeing them every day, to not seeing them until they come home for holidays or school breaks. This can make the distance feel even harder, because it is such a change to what you and your family are used to. Making a schedule to help keep track of when you’re going to call them or facetime can ensure that you will stay in touch. Seeing their faces and hearing their voices can be so much more personal than texting. Although keeping in touch by texting is great, seeing their face or hearing their voice feels like they’re right there with you. 

Text them whenever you’re thinking about them
If you’re shopping and see a pair of shoes that they might like, are watching your shared favorite movie, or just miss them, texting them whenever you are thinking about them can help increase your communication. It also lets them know that you’re thinking about them, which will make the long distance easier for them. Being away from home can be hard, but knowing that your family is thinking about you can make it so much easier! 

Plan visits
Whether your sibling is only 30 minutes away or a 3-hour plane ride, visiting is so important. When you’re used to seeing your sibling every day, going months without seeing them can feel super strange. Planning to visit them will give you something to look forward to when you’re missing them extra. Knowing that you’re going to see your sibling soon can make your time apart a lot easier! 

Being away from your sibling for the first time can be so hard, especially if you’re super close. The distance will be hard at first, but soon you will get used to this change and you’ll be able to find ways to make the process easier. Just know that it’s not only hard for you, it’s hard for your siblings too! Although it feels like nothing will ever be the same again, you’ll eventually find a new normal and everything will start to fall into place. Talk to them as much as you want, visit whenever you can, and know that they’ll always love you! 

What do you and your siblings love to do in your free time? Let us know in the comments! 


by Molly Beidleman | 5/28/2018
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