"I don't like my BFF's boyfriend"


You can't wait to grab dinner with your bestie tonight at Panera...until she texts you, "Is it okay if Ryan comes too?" *Groan*. You love your friend, but her boyfriend, well, not so much. That's a tricky sitch to be in, we know. Here are our tips for how to cope when you aren't a fan of your BFF's flame:

Zip your lips.
Remember when your mom told you that if you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all? Sometimes that applies when it comes to your friends and their BFs. If you simply don't like his stance on politics or the way he burps at the caf table (gross!), it might be better to keep your mouth shut. Your bestie is happy, and that's all that matters.

Get to know him.
It's possible your dislike might be because you don't know the guy well enough. Why not start a convo the next time you see him in the hall? You might discover the two of you share a love of Drake and peanut butter M&Ms. Instant friendship. 

Make an effort.
Along the same lines of getting to know your best friend's guy, try to spend more time with the two of them. When you see how much he makes her laugh or how he always knows the right thing to say when she's feeling down, you might change your mind about him. Even if he's not your type, the three of you can still hang out. It will make your BFF's day to be with the two people who mean the most to her.

Set aside girl time.
If you *really* can't stand her BF, that's okay. You're going to meet people you don't like and that's normal. But when it's your BFF's boyfriend, it can be awkward. Don't risk losing your friendship by putting yourself in situations where you might offend her (or him). Instead, make sure to carve out time where it's just you and your bestie, sans the BF. Friends are forever so don't let a guy get in your way. 

How do you deal when you don't like your best friend's BF? Let us know in the comments! 


by Amanda Tarlton | 11/27/2017
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