"Dear Carol, why do boys only focus on my body?"
I am 12, but my body looks a lot older. Guys never talk to me or hang out with me...until I have on a bathing suit. When I go to the pool with my girl friends, I am usually correct when I say, “Here come the boys.”
—I’m Not My Body
Dear I’m Not My Body,
These years can be exasperating! Fortunately, guys and girls keep growing up—emotionally and physically—and, one day, this situation will be different. For now, you could throw a T-shirt over your bikini, shop for a swimsuit that downplays your curves or figure out where you could enjoy a girls-only swim. Better still would be to take a deep breath and recognize that just about every girl is self-conscious about breast size, underarm hair, height, weight or an otherwise changing body. While your bod may feel foreign to you now, you will eventually feel more comfortable in your skin. And once everyone hits puberty, no one will care who got there first.
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