How to make things better when you've crossed the line with your BFF
My sister and I talk about everything and laugh about the stupidest stuff but, lately, we’ve been down each other’s throats. She recently kissed a boy she had just met (her first kiss). Now, she says she needs to find someone else to kiss. To me, this sounds skanky. I confronted her in a nice way, telling her she doesn’t want to be portrayed as a slut. She went ballistic! Maybe I should have kept my mouth shut. Please help me before I lose my best friend.
Dear Said the Wrong Thing,
Your sister surely respects your opinion—which is why your words hurt her. You’re lucky you have each other and a relationship in which you can speak your mind. Don’t worry about having given her something to think about. You’re right that she should not seem so casual about kissing. Next time you weigh in, though, choose your words more carefully. Right now, an apology and hug might help you two get back on track. Tell your sister you’re sorry or write a note: “I can’t believe I said that to you. You’re the best sister and friend a girl could have, and I’m sorry it upset you.” Is it possible that, deep down, you feel a little jealous of your sister’s newfound connection with boys? If so, don’t worry. You two are tight and, while romance comes and goes, siblings are forever.
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