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"Dear Carol, I want to pick up new hobbies this summer, but I don't know where to start"

Dear Carol, 

This summer, I want to try a lot of different hobbies because I haven't found what I really like. Those things would be dancing, singing, theater, acting, piano, guitar, drumming and photography. My mom already knows that I like photography and acting, but she doesn't know about the rest. I just don't want her to judge me or say no. I haven't told her yet because I get nervous asking questions like that because I think I'm going to get rejected. Do you have any advice?

-  Hobbies

Dear Hobbies,

It's good to dream and explore so you can find out what you enjoy doing and what you're good at. Find a calm moment and say, "Mom, I love you, and I want to be able to talk to you about my future. Right now, I want to try dancing or acting or making music, and I hope you can help me think about this." If your school is still in session, ask the music teacher for recommendations. A town librarian can be helpful, too—and bulletin boards may have ads for music lessons. Does your Apple store offer free classes in taking photos? Does your community have a theater? Can you take dance classes at the Y? And keep asking trusted adults, including your mom, about how you can develop your talents. Maybe someone knows a photographer who can use an assistant. 

Carol Weston is the author of 16 books including GirltalkSpeed of Life and Ava and Pip. Follow her on Insta @carolwestonnyc and visit

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by GL | 6/30/2023