My best friend has all the luck!
Repeat after me…
Your best friend is not trying to upstage you. Your best friend is not trying to upstage you. Good things happen all the time without us even asking for them. That great grade she got when you were hoping to scrape by with a pass? Inside, she was probably terrified of failing, too. Just ‘cause everything seems just ducky on the outside doesn’t mean your pal is perfect…nor is she trying to look perfect, either. Take her accomplishments in stride, sweetie, and don’t let them diminish your own.
Toot your own horn
Everyone likes to be in the spotlight once in awhile—and that’s A-OK, babe! While nobody likes a braggart, your crew will never fault you for gleefully showing off that blue ribbon you scored last weekend…so long as your daily caf lunch convo doesn’t become a highlights reel of your every triumph. Don’t wait for the applause and pats on the back. Go out there and grab it.
Tell her how you feel
Chances are your bud has absolutely no idea what her victories are doing to yours. So clue her in! Have a heart-to-heart, and let her know that while you know she’s not doing any of it on purpose, you really feel like your own accomplishments are insignificant next to hers. Don’t ask her to change what she’s doing—after all, if she’s not trying to one-up you, there’s not a whole lot she can do about it. But once she understands that you need a boost, she’ll know to talk up your triumphs. Silly as it may sound, this’ll lead to you feeling better about yourself and your relationship growing stronger than ever before.
Focus on Y-O-U