What to do if your crush ghosts you

You and that cutie from math class have been texting all week. He's *so* funny and remembers everything about you (and he's on the basketball team!) But now he's not responding to your messages, and you're pretty sure he's ghosting (insert heartbreak emoji). Don't worry, babe. We've got *all* the tips you need to get through this.

It's not you, it's them

After someone ghosts you, it can be super tough not to take it personally. Because your crush hasn't given you a reason for it, your first instinct might be to blame yourself. Well, we're here to tell you: It's not you, it's them. Look at the silver lining—because chances are, your crush just did you a *huge* favor. Soon you'll see that he just wasn't the person for you...and that you deserve someone who puts in the same kind of effort you give them. 

Distract yourself

Being ghosted is never fun, but some good distractions can def help. Be sure to surround yourself with people who support you and have a much-needed vent sesh with your friends. Ofc, it's also important to take time for yourself when you need to and process everything you're feeling. Picking up a new hobby, focusing on school or work and doing some self-care are great ways to distract yourself—and help you become more confident again.

It's okay to be sad

We get it, being ghosted sucks, and you don't need to pretend that it doesn't. The most important thing to remember is that it's okay to be sad. It's okay to buy a pint of Ben & Jerry's, binge a whole season of Gilmore Girls and cry when Rory and Jess break up. Being sad is not a bad thing! It just means you're human.

Get back out there

Don't let this one boy keep you from living your best life. Just because he's not the one doesn't mean you have to be alone forever. So put on "Begin Again" by Taylor Swift and get back out there! You're a total catch, and when you find the right person you'll know it. 

Check out these GL web posts for more crush advice:
💖 5 red flags to look out for when you're catching feelings
💖 How to keep the text convo going with your crush
💖 How to start healing from your very first breakup

How do you deal with getting ghosted? Let us know on Twitter @girlslifemag!

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by Aubrey Rhoadarmer and Samara Smukler | 1/15/2023